Wow, has it really been 4 months? Where have I been? Sorry about the huge delay, between December and January, I both moved and got a new job, so my whole life was thrown out of sorts, and I’m finally getting some of my bearings back. So where did I leave off? Oh yes, I was going to discuss some of the ways that patriarchy is bad news for men as well as women. In my last entry I was discussing the song Bait a Hook and how it says that the other man basically does not deserve love because he’s not a “backwoods boy” and, as the line in the song says, “He can’t even bait a hook.” So that was one negative effect of patriarchy on men, the fact that they are molded into the macho stereotype, and if they vary from that, they are looked down on, considered less than a man, and called a woman as an insult.
Another way that men suffer from patriarchy is, thankfully, a topic that is becoming much more widespread and opening up a lot of questions, and it actually is having a positive impact on women’s struggles as well. When people talk about how women shouldn’t “dress like sluts” because they’re going to get raped, they’re insulting men just as much, if not more, than women. The idea that what a woman wears causes her to get raped is implying that men have absolutely no control over what they do and how they act, and frankly, if I were a man, I’d be very upset by that. You are saying that as soon as a woman puts on a short skirt or shows any sort of cleavage at all, men cease to be human beings and turn into either animals completely driven by instinct or possessed by a demon of lust that takes over and controls their every move.
The fact is, saying that women get raped because they’re dressed like a slut is not criticizing women at all. It’s completely and totally insulting to men, however. I was never aware that men lose all control over who they are if I show any skin, so I wonder if they are aware of it. Are they still aware of what’s happening when the Lust-Demon takes over, or do they just wake up to reality hours later not knowing what they’ve done or where they’ve gone.
If, however, there are men out there who can take action and defeat the Lust-Demon, then good for you, guys! Apparently, not everybody has that power. For those of us who are not subject to the Lust-Demon, but can see the problem, we still need to keep fighting. We need to continue this battle against the overpowering Lust-Demon, along with the one who lords over him, the Devil of Patriarchy.
Because that guy…he’s a real asshole.