I read this story, and was completely blown away by it. While I have plenty of experience with the first half, I can’t imagine how I would handle the second half, and I greatly admire the strength this woman had to have to be able to handle this situation the way she did.
But let’s get down to the real reason we’re here. After I read the story, I shared a link to it on my Facebook page along with a few words, and was completely shocked by the response I got in the comments. The main feedback that I read was not the outrage and sadness that I and a few others shared, but was instead quite a lot of “she should’ve known the proper way to handle it” and “she should know how to protect herself in public. And this was coming from other women!
Umm…excuse me?! Am I the only one seeing a problem with this? As I scrolled through the comments, I couldn’t believe what I was reading. And then later, I had a face-to-face conversation with someone about it (another woman, nonetheless), and she said the same thing. I was completely flabbergasted. How are there so many people missing so many problems with this? How are there so many people putting the blame on this woman, not only for not getting rid of the crazy man, but not handling the men in the first half of the story properly.
Why are we so comfortable in the society where women can’t go out into public without watching everything they do because you never know who might interpret something you do or something you wear or even the way your face looks as an invitation? Why have the tables turned so severely that it’s the woman’s fault that she doesn’t want to be hit on?
So I send this out as a call to anyone who may see this. See the problems with this, the problems with the judgments set on women, the problems with society. Do not allow us to settle into this life where women are seen as targets and goals. Do not allow us to settle into a society where women have to be on guard and take special precautions merely to ride a train. Most importantly, do not allow us to settle into a world where personal attacks, whether they be minor or extreme, are blamed on the victim.
“That’s just the world we live in” can never and should never be an excuse for inactivity. “That’s just the way things are” are the most despicable 6 words I’ve ever heard.
“All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.